I was warned about creeps and weirdos I'd meet on dating sites. So far, I think I've been lucky. It's true though that I haven't met too many guys since I started dating. Often, it starts with a few messages and then you noticed that you'd rather spend time exchanging crazy one liners than respond to your new match. Guilty as charged! My attention span isn't always stellar.
So, speaking of weirdos, here is an exchange I had on match.com:
Received: "I need someone who is young and tight, could that be you?"Me, looking up his profile... says he's 60, looking for someone 7-10 years younger.Me, replying back and feeling sassy: "Math was never your forte, huh? I don't think my age and your desire add up."Him: "It adds up as far as the biggest cock you've had in yourself to date."Me, blocking profile and rolling my eyes.
And there is SG5, who I thought would be a good match. We started off okay, having good conversations and, even though I was sort of uncertain about his sense of humour, I liked that we had some things in common.
One day he gave me his cell number so we could exchange directly. That was okay with me as 1) I don't mind giving out my cell number, after a few days/weeks, to people I'll eventually meet anyway and 2) I'm not listed in any phone books, so it's impossible to find out where I live using my name in a search engine.
Suddenly, his style of flirting became a bit weird. I don't know if it's just because we were on a different platform, but I believe I'm always constant in my style, texting or messaging. Anyways, he started winking at me at the wrong places and/or the wrong times. I know, it's completely stupid to pay attention where someone does a ";)" in a text message, but that's how neurotic I am.
So one day he suggested we meet for coffee. I said yes, then we talked where. Since I wanted to be accommodating, I offered to meet halfway. I found a place, but it's difficult to park in that area, so he suggested another one, at the corner of such and such. I deleted his messages since then, but his words were sort of "we can meet at xyz, it's close to abc park ;)" ...
Notice the wink after mentioning the park.
Insert creepy feeling now.
If you know me by now, you're convinced that I am googling the coffee place, just to make sure where I'm going and if there is a possibility of my body parts being scattered somewhere. You're exactly right, I'm googling. And I can't find the freakin' coffee place. Even better, recent user reviews say that the location is now closed.
Next to a huge park, at a closed coffee place, at night? Oh, I don't think so.
Insert creepy feeling again.
I trusted my female intuition/instincts. It didn't feel right to me. I might have missed on a great guy, but better be safe than sorry. We exchanged a few more texts after that, but eventually I cancelled and said I had to work late. He probably thinks I'm a moron for cancelling after having said yes. Oh well. What's one more person in the world hating me, huh? :)
You should absolutely trust your instincts. Stay safe. And good luck avoiding the creeps. :-)
ReplyDeleteI agree with Max... don't feel bad listening to yourself... feel bad when you don't..
ReplyDeleteALWAYS go with your gut feeling....
ReplyDeleteCreepers abound... and the old guy and his boasting about his big cock.. ewwwwwwwwwwwww !
Trust your instincts -- it's probably NOT safe! Some guys are just creepy on these sites. I've been lucky to only talk to a few, but some of them... I don't understand why they think that would be something we want.
ReplyDeleteKeep following your instincts.
ReplyDeleteI saw the title of your post in Reader and thought, "Yeah!! She's writing about me again." Boy was I disappointed. It is strange how accurate our first impressions and gut feelings can be. The book "BLINK" covered it very wall and I recommend reading it if just for validation of how we make decisions. When ever you hear the music in the background, you know it's time to run. you made the right choice.
ReplyDeleteOMG, I am so stupid and out of touch - I thought when people sent this ;) they were just too lazy to hit the shift button to smile :)
ReplyDeleteOh well... hey France ;)
But good call on playing it safe.
LOL, yea add me to the masses - better safe than sorry France!
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J/k :)
Max: Luck I will need, yes. :)
ReplyDeleteLawless, sweets: Absolutely. Better be safe than sorry.
flying solo: Ewwww indeed!
petite amie: Men are strange creatures, that's why.
Advizor: Give me something to write about! ;) Thanks for the book recommendation, I'll check it out!
Ryan & GoodWill: LOL!!!! ;)
Wow...I love these dating stories. Have a few of my own as well. Glad you follow your instincts. :)
ReplyDeleteThe gut never lies... (Hmmm, that sounds like a horror flick title...)
ReplyDeletePersonally, I would have judged his winks (and gauged the situation in the very same way). It's not neurosis at all. You, my dear, have standards... ;)
(Crap, was that the right time to wink?!)
Instincts are definitely a good thing, don't want to end up hearing "it puts the lotion on its skin or else it gets the hose again"
ReplyDeleteYikes!
Yeah....totally gotta go with instincts when you are dating via the internet! I dated one guy who....from the get go I just had an 'off' feeling with him. Everything he said, rather than put me at ease it left me feeling like he might be a serial killer.... It didn't last. I just couldn't push past the uneasy feeling he gave me.
ReplyDelete*muah* be safe ;)
Absolutely the correct decision... always better to listen to that gut feeling then find out why you had it!
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Aphrodite: Glad you enjoy the stories! I have more. :)
ReplyDeleteMinx: Creepy guy #1 loved horror movies - want his email? LOL Cheers to standards!
Marcus: Never heard that one, and I hope I never have to anyway!
Vixen & Scarlett: Thank you ladies! ;)
I agree with everyone else...when something feels "off," its best to just call it quits.
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